Saying I love you

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Suddenly... you feel it. You're in love! Now what to do? Do you just blurt it out? Or should you wait for your partner to say it first? What's the best strategy?

The first moment when you realise you’ve met “the one” can be filled with excitement and sometimes, dread. After all, you don’t want to come off too eager and just blurt out those three little words. What if admitting your feelings ruins what you’ve got. There’s so much to think about.

If you’re feeling confused about how to tell someone you love them, you’re not alone. Confessing your true feelings too soon in a relationship could scare your partner away if their feelings aren’t quite on the same level yet. But if you both are waiting for the other to say it, each of you is probably wondering where you stand in the relationship.

There are so many dilemmas that can make love seem more complicated than it needs to be. But don’t let this worry you. Follow the tips below that will help make saying “I love you,” a positive experience for all involved. Consider these before you say those three little words.

Tradition

If you know how you feel but think the guy should say it first you need to remember that we live in a modern world. Traditionally men are meant to be the ones who express their love first but we don’t live life like a black and white movie any more so don’t let this hold you back.

Gage your experience level

It’s true that love can happen at any age, but true feelings of love have a level of maturity to them. It isn’t just about attraction and lust or constantly obsessing about your partner to the point where you can’t function. Lasting, true love happens in bits, gradually until you finally realise “this is the one.” It doesn’t take forever to develop, but it also doesn’t occur at first sight, overnight or when you’re thirteen either.

Look at your relationship

You need to assess whether you’re in a good place within your partnership? In other words, do both of you want the relationship to move forward at about the same pace? Couples that aren’t on the same page in the beginning of a relationship tend to struggle throughout. If one of you falls in love early on while the other doesn’t, it could signal trouble down the road in the form of different expectations. If one of you wants marriage and babies within a year while the other thinks you need to take some time to just be together, you need to work this out before you move forward. Saying “I love you” too fast will only add to the stress in this situation. So take an objective look at you and your partner. Be honest in your assessment to conclude if you both seem to want the same things.

Be sincere

When you’ve taken time to consider your feelings and are sure about them, the next step is to just say, “I love you.” Remember that how you say it and where isn’t as important as being sincere in your expression. So don’t waste time trying to think of a clever way to say it. If you sound too rehersed when you say it, it wont come from the heart and wont sound sincere.

Say it

Finally, tell your partner how you feel. There’s no need to over-complicate the situation with romantic gestures All you need to do is look him/her in the eye and tell them “I love you.” Do it with confidence and authenticity. I’m sure your partner will respond in kind, but be sure not to place any pressure on them if they don’t respond back immediately. Sometimes being in love is a great surprise to people, and they need time to absorb it. Let the moment happen. Saying, “I love you” the first time is one of the great pleasures of life. They may be only three, little words, but they mean so much. The ultimate outcome should be that you touch the heart of the one you love. It is a great accomplishment to touch someone's heart.

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